Reconnecting with My Life Purpose: From Abandonment to Empowerment

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From the moment I was born, life has been a journey of heartbreak, abandonment, and rediscovery. Yet, through the depths of pain, I’ve emerged stronger, more grounded, and living my purpose. Here is my story of finding meaning after being repeatedly abandoned.

First Abandonment: Given Away for Adoption

Born as the 10th child in a family of 12, I was the only one sent away for adoption. My biological parents’ decision planted a seed of rejection in my heart, making me wonder, Why me?

While my adoptive family initially provided a warm and loving home, the harmony shattered when I turned three. My adoptive parents’ escalating conflicts reached a terrifying climax when my mother, in a fit of rage, threatened my father with a meat cleaver. Soon after, he left, marking my second abandonment. His rare visits felt more like a reminder of what I’d lost than a connection.

By 16, the secrets unravelled. A phone call from a sister I didn’t know revealed my adoption. The realization that my adoptive mother had concealed this truth left me feeling even more isolated, stuck between two families, yet belonging to neither.

Survival Mode: People Pleasing and Emotional Shields

My childhood experiences shaped my survival instincts. I became a people-pleaser, always striving to prove my worth, blaming myself for every misstep, and wearing masks to hide and swallow my pain. The fear of being hurt again led me to push people away, avoiding intimacy and vulnerability.

Even in my marriage, this pattern persisted. I married to meet societal expectations, not for love, and subconsciously distanced myself from my husband and children. I was living disconnected from my own emotions, lost in my own layers and layers of protective heart walls.

Third Abandonment: Divorce and the Breaking Point

In 2015, my husband walked out of our 17-year marriage, plunging me into a suffocating abyss of darkness where hope seemed non-existent, and every way out was swallowed by despair. This was my third heartbreak—a culmination of all the unresolved pain I’d carried for decades. My world crumbled, and I hit rock bottom.

I blamed myself relentlessly for the broken marriage, bad financial decisions, and the disconnection with my children. It felt like my life was a string of failures, and for a moment, I wanted the pain to end.

The Turning Point: Rediscovering Myself

Amid the despair, I made a choice: to rebuild myself, for my children and for me. I decided to reconnect with my life purpose and live authentically.

I began with the very techniques I had taught others as a healer and coach. Facing my inner child, I confronted decades of suppressed emotions—rejection, guilt, and fear—and started clearing the emotional baggage that weighed me down.

Through Family Constellation Therapy, Quantum Healing Hypnosis Therapy, meditation, exercise, and intentional self-care, I began healing my mind, body, and soul. I also surrounded myself with positive, like-minded people and embraced nature to regain balance.

The Healing Journey: Lessons and Growth

As I unravelled my subconscious beliefs, I realized how my childhood trauma had influenced my relationships and decisions:

I had avoided intimacy to protect myself from further hurt, pushing away even those I loved.

I carried guilt for my adoptive mother’s unhappiness, feeling responsible for her struggles.

I unconsciously distanced myself from my own children, mirroring the disconnection I experienced with my parents.

These realizations were painful but necessary for healing. As I worked through them, my heart opened again—to myself, my children, and others.

Living with Purpose

Today, I am a transformed woman. I live with clarity, peace, and gratitude, embracing my life’s purpose as a Quantum Leap Healer and Relationship Coach. I help clients worldwide uncover their potential and break free from limiting beliefs, just as I did.

Even my love life has blossomed. I’ve found a loving, supportive partner, and together, we’ve created a harmonious family.

A Message of Hope

Abandonment is painful, but it does not define you. It is possible to turn trauma into a gift that propels you toward your true purpose. By embracing your past with gratitude and working through the pain, you can transform your life and thrive.

I believe we are all here on Earth School to evolve, and every challenge is an assignment for growth. My journey has taught me that healing is not linear, but it is worth every step.

If you’ve ever felt abandoned—by family, friends, or even yourself—know that you have the power to reconnect with your purpose and live a life of joy, love, and fulfillment.

With love and gratitude,

Maylin.